Dr. George R. Warsaw, Ph.D., Psychotherapist

(404) 256-0244

11 Tips for Managing Conflict with Your Spouse 

  •  Look directly at your spouse to let her know you are listening.
  •  Avoid rehashing past hurts – stay focused on the present issue.
  •  Eliminate distractions by turning off the TV, silencing your phone, etc.
  •  Discuss hurtful behavior based on how it makes you feel rather than as a reflection of your   spouse’s character.  Treat your spouse respectfully, as you wish to be treated.
  •  Allow your spouse to explain her position or feelings without interrupting.
  • Share happy memories to help the two of you reconnect. 
  • Take time to do things you enjoy together.
  • Don’t involve your kids in your conflicts.
  • Stop thinking of “you” or “me” and consider what is best for the two of you as couple. 
  • Let your spouse win sometimes -- is getting you way really more important than keeping your marriage?

When the conflict is severe or has gone on for a long time, you need a trained professional to help you sort through the issues that are causing conflict and stress in your marriage. With guidance, you can develop self-awareness and the skills needed to work through the issue.

7 Simple Ways to Nurture Your Teenager 

  •  When you child wants to talk, take time to listen. 
  • Praise good behavior. It will encourage more good behavior and good feelings about your teenager and you. 
  • Show interests in your teen’s interests.
  • Spend one-on-one time with your teen. 
  • Let your teen make her own choices that don’t endanger her safety or future while putting your foot down about the more serious issues. 
  • Try to be on the same page as your partner or, at least, don’t bad-mouth him or her in front of your teen. 
  • Show affection with a hug, a hair ruffling or, if your teen prefers, a fist bump.

If you need help dealing with your teen and developing the safe, nurturing environment your teen needs, talk with a psychotherapist. A professional can support you in working through problems you are having with your teenager and can help you develop the relationship now that will give him the tools to build healthy relationships later. 

5 Brain Boosters 

Whether your goal is acing your college midterms or reducing
 the cognitive decline that comes with aging, here are five 
surprising strategies to help you be your sharpest. 

  • Chew gum (but make it sugar free). Chewing is believed to reduce stress and increase signals in an area of the brain that is crucial to learning. 
  • Go dancing. One study showed that older people who dance three or four times a week reduce their risk of dementia by 76 percent.
  •  Make friends. A study of people ages 24 to 96 found that those who spent the most time socializing performed the best on tests of cognition and memory. 
  •  Go for coffee. A single cup in the morning can improve concentration throughout the day. Meet a friend for coffee and you’ll reap the benefits of socializing too.
  • Eat fish to keep your brain healthy. Research has shown that eating two servings of fatty fish each week can improve blood flow to the brain.
10 Easy Ways to Relax 

 Whether you are feeling stressed, unable to sleep
  or coping with pain, these tips and techniques will
  help you relax. 

  • Listen to music. For most people slow tunes are most calming. 
  • Pet your pet. Scratch your dog behind the ears or stroke your cat’s fur to ease stress. 
  • Chew a piece of gum. Chewing calms nerves. Ever wonder why you chew on pencil erasers when you are nervous?
  • Practice yoga or tai chi. 
  • Take a warm bath or shower.
  • Breathe slowly. Breathe in to a count of four through your nose to fill your lungs, then out to a count of four through your mouth.
  • Try progressive relaxation. Tense and then slowly relax each muscle group, beginning with your forehead and working your way down to your toes. 
  • Imagine yourself in a safem happy place. Focus on the sights, sounds, smells and tastes you would experience there. 
  • Get a massage.
  • Doodle or color in a coloring book.

If stress becomes an ongoing problem, it can rob you of pleasure and even harm your health  Give me a call at 404-256-0244. I have the set of skills to help you manage the stress that is holding your back. 

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8 Unsuspected Effects of Stress 

Have you found yourself getting frequent colds, gaining 
weight or having trouble controlling a chronic disease, 
like diabetes or asthma? You may be suffering the effects
 of stress. By some estimates as many as 75 percent to 
90 percent of doctors’ office visits are for problems related
 to stress. Here are 8 common health problems you might 
not realize could be linked to stress. 

  • Colds and flu
  • Gastrointestinal problems, including gastric reflux and irritable bowel syndrome
  • Obesity, especially weight gain in abdomen
  • Cardiovascular disease
  • Substance abuse 
  • Type 2 diabetes, which can be harder to control if you are stressed
  •  Chronic pain, including tension headaches, back pain and jaw pain
  • Asthma, which can be worsened or even triggered by stress

If you are suffering from any of these, controlling stress may be an effective part of treatment. Psychotherapy can help.

7 Surprising Benefits of Music 

You know that listening to music can energize you, relax 
you or just bring more enjoyment to your life. Here are seven
benefits of music that may surprise you. Listen to music if 
you want to:

  • enhance your memory or perform well on a test
  • improve your sports performance
  • ease chronic pain
  • reduce your blood pressure
  • cut your calorie intake
  • improve your peripheral vision
  • boost your immunity

15 Things You Can Do to Help Others – and Yourself

 You know that helping other makes you feel good. Now 
 research says it can also make you live longer by helping 
 to protect you from the harmful effects of stress. Even if
 you have just a few days or a few minutes, you can
 improve someone's life – at least for a little while – and
 perhaps prolong your own. your own. 

Here a few ideas to get started.

If you have. . .  

A few days

  • Devote your weekend to a charitable event, such as the Susan G. Komen Three-Day Walk for breast cancer.
  • Offer to chaperone a campout for your child’s scout troop.
  • Help a friend who is moving to pack and clean up the house or apartment. 

A few hours

  • Offer to babysit while new parents go to dinner. 
  • Give a caregiver a brief respite from caring for an elderly parent.
  • Prepare and deliver a meal to a homebound senior in your neighborhood. 
  • Run in a 10 K for a cause about which you are passionate.
  • Visit a friend in the hospital and take along a book or magazine she will enjoy.
  • Offer to run errands for a friend whose car is in the shop. 

A few minutes or seconds 

  • Hold the door for a mom with a stroller, an elderly person – or anyone.
  • Pay for a meal for the person behind you in the fast-food drive-thru. 
  • Put change in an expired parking meter.
  • Let a car get in front of you in rush-hour traffic. 
  • Say “thank you” to the cashier or person who bags your groceries.

10 Benefits of Walking

The next time you come to see me and the weather is nice,
bring along your walking shoes for a little "walk therapy."
I find that taking a walk during our sessions helps some 
people to relax and open up in ways they might not sitting 
face-to-face in an office. Getting out and walking, if you 
are usually sedentary, can also be a way to kick-start a 
walking habit that will benefit you outside of our time together.
 Consider these benefits of walking:

  • strengthens muscles
  • improves balance
  • helps with weight loss or maintenance
  • improves cardiovascular fitness 
  • boosts immunity
  • improves nighttime sleep 
  • helps relieve anxiety and depression 
  • improves a sense of well being 
  • lowers blood pressure and triglycerides 
  • gets you where you are going

Two people rarely see eye to eye all of the time – even if they have promised to love, honor and cherish. Building a strong marriage requires work, dedication and the ability to manage conflicts. If you find yourself at odds with your spouse, try these tips: 
A recent study found young adults who had loving, nurturing parents in their teen years were more likely to have satisfying marriages and romantic relationships later on. Here are seven loving and nurturing acts that can improve your relationship with your teen now and maybe even increase his or her chances for a good marriage in the future.